How to Have Healthy, Godly Relationships

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Walking in Truth and Grace in Your Relationships

In our relationships with others often encounter moments that challenge our integrity, patience, and kindness. But as Christians, we are called to navigate these moments with self-control and grace. The Apostle Paul, in his letter to the Ephesians, provides a helpful guide on how to live a life that reflects our relationship with Christ and improves our relationships with others. Let’s delve into Ephesians 4:25-32 and explore how we can put these principles into practice in our daily lives.

Speak the Truth

Paul begins by urging us to “put away falsehood” and to “speak the truth with [our] neighbor, for we are members of one another” (Ephesians 4:25). Truth is the foundation of any healthy relationship, whether it be with family, friends, or colleagues. When we commit to honesty, we build trust and foster a sense of community. This call to truthfulness is not just about avoiding lies but about being transparent and genuine in our interactions. We should be considerate in what we say and take care to not be cruel when we are speaking truthfully.

Handling Anger

Scripture warns us “Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger” (Ephesians 4:26). Anger is a natural emotion, but Paul warns us to handle it carefully. It’s easy to misinterpret this verse as advice solely for married couples, but it applies to all of our relationships. Anger, if left unchecked, can fester and lead to bitterness. By addressing our grievances promptly and constructively, we can prevent the devil from gaining a foothold in our hearts.

Integrity In Our Work

Paul’s instruction to “let the thief no longer steal, but rather let him labor, doing honest work with his own hands” (Ephesians 4:28) emphasizes the value of integrity in our work. Honest labor not only provides for our needs but also enables us to share with those in need. This principle extends beyond physical theft to include any form of dishonesty in our professional or personal lives. By choosing to be ethical in our practices, we honor God and contribute positively to society. We also gain respect and trust from those who know us or work with us.

Edifying Speech

We communicate in various ways in all of our relationships, speech is an important one. “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” (Ephesians 4:29). Our words have immense power! They can either uplift or tear down. Paul encourages us to use our speech to build others up, offering encouragement and grace. This means avoiding gossip, slander, and harsh criticism, and instead, speaking words that inspire and edify. It also means to avoid coarse language or swearing.

Do Not Grieve the Holy Spirit

With all of our relationships one with the whole spirt can not be overlooked it is of vital importance and frames all other relationships. “And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption” (Ephesians 4:30). The Holy Spirit dwells within us, guiding and empowering us to live according to God’s will. When we engage in sinful behavior, we grieve the Spirit. This verse serves as a reminder to live in a way that honors the presence of the Holy Spirit in our lives, striving for maturity in our faith.

Let Go of Bitterness

Paul’s exhortation to “let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice” (Ephesians 4:31) is a call to release negative emotions that can poison our hearts. Bitterness and malice not only harm our relationships but also hinder our spiritual growth. By letting go of these destructive feelings, we make room for God’s love and peace to fill our hearts.

Embrace Kindness and Forgiveness

Finally, Paul instructs us to “be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32). Kindness and forgiveness are at the heart of Christian living. Just as we have received God’s grace and forgiveness through Christ, we are called to extend the same to others. This means showing compassion, understanding, and mercy, even when it is difficult. This allows for healing.

6 Practical Steps to Healthy, Godly Relationships

  1. Reflect Daily: Take time each day to reflect on your actions and words. Ask yourself if they align with the principles of truth, grace, and kindness.
  2. Prayer: Start your day with prayer. Seek God’s guidance in managing your emotions, especially anger. Pray for the strength to forgive and the wisdom to speak words that build people up.
  3. Accountability: Surround yourself with a community of believers who can hold you accountable and encourage you with any struggles you may have.
  4. Serve Others: Look for opportunities to serve others, whether through your work, at church, or in the community. Acts of service help us live out God’s teachings of honest labor and sharing with those in need.
  5. Mindful Speech: Be intentional about your words. Before speaking, ask yourself if your words will edify and give grace to those who hear.
  6. Forgiveness: Practice forgiveness daily. Remember that forgiveness is a process, and it often requires time and prayer.

Call to Relationship

Creating healthy relationships takes effort and faith! By embracing the teachings laid out in Ephesians 4:25-32, we can interact with people with grace and become examples of God’s love to others in a world that desperately needs it. Let’s commit to managing our anger, working honestly, using edifying speech, honoring the Holy Spirit, letting go of bitterness, and embracing kindness, compassion, and forgiveness. In doing so, we not only transform our own lives but also impact those around us for the glory of God.


Lakeview Christian Church of Portage Lakes invites you to join us in this Sunday. Together, we can experience God’s Grace and share the love of Jesus with those around us.

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