We Will All Experience It
Conflict is an inevitable part of life. Even the Avengers, Earth’s mightiest heroes, faced their share of disagreements and clashes. But it’s not just fictional heroes who grapple with discord. The mightiest heroes from the Scriptures, the twelve men who followed Jesus, also experienced conflict. These were the men chosen by Jesus to spread His message, yet they were not immune to disagreements and misunderstandings.
We are all imperfect people living in an imperfect world. So yes, conflicts will arise wherever we go. The key is not to avoid confrontations but to learn how to respond to it in a way that aligns with our faith and values. How we respond to relationships and the conflicts within them can make a significant difference in the relationships in our life.
The Nature of Conflict
Conflict is a natural part of human interaction. It arises from differences in opinions, values, and expectations. Pastor Jim explains, “Some people have a tendency to avoid or withdraw from conflict. They just kind of walk to the side, thinking, “If I ignore it, then it’ll go away. This approach might provide temporary relief, but it often leads to unresolved issues that can fester and grow over time.”
Jim adds, “On the other hand, some people have a tendency to explode in conflict. They stew and stew, and all of a sudden, it’s like shaking a pop bottle way too much and then opening it—everything comes out in a rush.” This approach can be equally damaging, leading to hurt feelings and broken relationships.
Biblical Insights on Conflict
The Bible provides us with valuable insights on how to handle conflict in a healthy way. Proverbs 15:1 says, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” This verse reminds us of the power of our words and the importance of responding with gentleness and wisdom.
In Matthew 18:15-17, Jesus gives us a clear process for resolving our disagreements: “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector.”
This passage emphasizes the importance of addressing issues directly and privately first, and then involving others if necessary. It also highlights the goal of reconciliation and restoration, rather than punishment or retribution.
How to Handle Conflict
The Bible gives us specific actions we can take to successfully handle conflict:
Decide to Love: The first and most important step is to decide to love. Proverbs 10:12 says, “Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses.” Love is a decision to act in the best interest of the other person, even when it’s difficult. This kind of love comes from God and is exemplified by Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross.
Forgive Offenses: Forgiveness is essential in resolving conflict. Proverbs 19:11 states, “Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.” Forgiveness is not pretending that the offense never happened but choosing not to hold on to it. It is a decision to let go of the hurt and move forward.
Be Open to Receive Correction: Proverbs 27:5-6 says, “Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.” Being open to correction means being willing to listen and learn from others, even when it’s uncomfortable. It requires humility and a willingness to grow.
Admit Your Role: Proverbs 28:13 says, “Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.” Admitting your role in the situation is crucial. It means acknowledging your mistakes and taking responsibility for your actions.
Keep Your Anger in Check: Proverbs 29:22 warns, “A man of wrath stirs up strife, and one given to anger causes much transgression.” Anger can escalate conflict and cause worse harm. It’s important to manage your emotions and respond calmly and thoughtfully.
Correct Carefully: When you need to correct someone, do it carefully and with grace! Proverbs 9:7-9 advises, “Whoever corrects a scoffer gets himself abuse, and he who reproves a wicked man incurs injury. Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you; reprove a wise man, and he will love you. Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be still wiser; teach a righteous man, and he will increase in learning.” Approach correction with a spirit of love and a desire to help the other person grow. Humble yourself beforehand.
Remember This…
Conflict is a part of life, but it doesn’t have to be destructive. By following biblical principles and practical steps, we can navigate conflicts in a way that strengthens our relationships and deepens our faith. Whether we’re dealing with disagreements in our families, workplaces, or churches, we can choose to respond with love, forgiveness, and humility.
Just as the disciples faced disagreements and overcame them, we too can learn to handle conflicts in a way that respects people, honors God, and promotes peace. Remember, it’s not the absence of conflict that defines a great relationship, but the ability to resolve it in a positive and healthy way. We can view conflict as an opportunity for growth and transformation, trusting that God will guide us through every challenge.
Lakeview Christian Church of Portage Lakes invites you to join us in this Sunday. Together, we can experience God’s Grace and share the love of Jesus with those around us.
